Over the years of riding and meeting many, many horses with their varying personalities, some of the most talented horses I have come across were strong-headed button-pushers. These are the “challenging horses,” the ones that are not as quick to be understood and often not the first to be picked by the average rider. But understanding what makes the challenging horse tick will bring their dazzling personality to the surface, and give you a ride beyond your expectations.
How to Spot a Challenging Horse
The challenging horse will come in various packages. There is no physical characteristic that defines them, nor are they necessarily neurotic or lively. The challenging horse will reveal himself when you ride him. He is the one who will test you the second you hop on his back. He will try to find out where your boundaries are, what he can get away with, and, most importantly, what you expect of him. It is this last classification that makes them special, given time and development in your communication. For some, they will amusingly challenge everything you signal them to do the first time that you ask them to do it. Usually it is not until you stump them or throw in an unexpected request that they begin to pay attention. They bore easily and they get frazzled by lack of engagement. Here are ways to keep them engaged and bring out their talent.
1. Keep Their Attention
The most prominent characteristic of a challenging horse is their tendency towards boredom. Make your workouts different every time you ride them. Even if you need to hone the same exercises over the course of several sessions, mix up the routine. Incorporate the same exercises but in a different order. Be spontaneous in your sessions with them and re-think your normal riding routine. There will be times when you have their attention from the beginning of the ride–use these times to your advantage. Hone those exercises that you have been working on. But when they begin to do erratic things after practicing one exercise for a while, like floating into the middle of the arena, wiggling and kicking out their back feet, throw in an exercise you weren’t even planning on.
2. Learn When They Are Obstinate vs. Overwhelmed
This personality has a unique propensity to work hard and think harder. Many of them will try to learn your riding tendencies and anticipate them in the future. Furthermore, they may try to over-analyze your ride when they are trying to figure you out. I have found that they may use this information to either counteract you, or to impress you. Sometimes they argue with you from sheer obstinacy, because they don’t want to put in the effort, and sometimes they argue because they are overwhelmed. This is the great task for their rider, because if you’re not paying attention to the nuances of their personality, you could miss encouraging them into the next level, or you could push them past their breaking point.
The surefire way to know is by assessing how anxious they are in their body. This is probably the most important thing to take note of (not just for this personality, but for all personalities). When you feel them bracing against your movements, acting jumpy and reactive, you probably have a horse who is nervous, confused, and close to overwhelmed. When this happens, it is time to reassure them: tone down the exercise, pet their neck, talk to them soothingly, or work on something that you know they are comfortable with and good at. You can revisit the exercise, but don’t go directly back to it with the same approach. Ease them into it, and start with small increments that increase slowly. The last thing you want to do is to gain their trust after being so nervous, then force them full throttle back into the situation that made them afraid in the first place. You want to push them past their comfort threshold, not off the cliff. In my experience, these types of horses do not tend towards anxiety unless someone has punished them over and over for lack of understanding. So, if you have recently bought a horse who matches this description, just understand that they may need time.
On the other hand, if your horse is relaxed and you ask him to move in a way that he is underdeveloped (either mentally or physically), he may push back because he doesn’t want this discomfort. It will seem obstinate, but unlike us, it doesn’t have a deep psychological reason behind it. It is just plain uncomfortable. When you recognize this non-anxious push-back, persistent and determined nudges will get him past his comfort zone and move him to the next level.
3. Push Their Buttons Back
Once you learn the difference between obstinate and overwhelmed for your challenging horse, you will know how to juggle his boredom, analytical process, and button-pushing habit. You will be able to encourage him into new experiences without pushing him over the edge into a tantrum. Once you get to this point, go ahead and push his buttons back. When he starts to get bored, change the exercise. When he insists on doing the exercise one way, challenge him to do something he has never done before. The neat thing about the “challenging horse” is that when he trusts the person challenging him, he will rise to the occasion. He will be narrowly focused on figuring out exactly what you want. And he will keep seeking your affirmation through his hard work and full attention towards you.
Once he figures out exactly what you’re asking of him, he will do it with the most intense finesse. Be sure to release and reward: show him somehow that he did well. This is how the challenging horse rises and shows his true talent. And it takes a special horse person to draw this out of him.
Why Challenging Horses Are Some of the Best Horses
Liken this personality to that person you know who enjoys teasing and contradicting people. Many people may not understand that they are trying to connect in their own way. But those who do will see that these people are, in their own unique way, pursuing a friendship. Furthermore, their intelligence supersedes them. The challenging horse is no different. They may be quirky or rough-around-the-edges. They may get stubborn, but in their own odd way, they are trying to communicate and please you. These horses are hard workers and thinkers. They may try to counteract you as part of their push-pull dance, but really, their attempt to negotiate with you is a way of conversing. Natural contrarians, they like to be noticed, not ignored. The more you try to confine them into a standard-shaped box, the less they will perform. When you learn to connect with them at their level, you have won a brilliant, loyal steed forever.